How to survive a short sale: Part 4 -Wait

Send in your stuff and wait

And wait, and wait some more.

To start, here’s a few packet submission hints:

  • Try your best to send absolutely everything in at one time.  You have a much bigger chance of something going astray if you do this process piecemeal.  Don’t give the lender any opportunity to reject you because something is missing.
  • Put your loan number on everything.  Many lenders require this, but I suggest you go ahead even if they don’t.  Again, you want this to go as smoothly as possible; both for yourself, and the mortgage company.  This way if something gets dropped on the floor or set aside, it can easily be traced back to your packet.
  • Keep copies of your entire packet.  There’s a good chance something will get lost and you don’t want to have to take the time to recreate anything.
  • Don’t send originals!  You may need them for something else later.  None of the materials you send off are going to be returned to you.

Once you have submitted your packet, your next step is to bide your time until an answer comes.  Barring some sort of last-minute force-through, your short sale will not be approved quickly.  It’s nerve-wracking, but don’t panic if you haven’t heard anything in the first few weeks.  Millions of homes are in foreclosure and pre-foreclosure right now.  That’s a lot for the mortgage companies to wade through, and in certain respects, you really are just another number.

Some mortgage companies have very strict rules on communicating at this point.  Your realtor will have read the materials (right, guys?) and will know if the company expects you to wait a full month before contacting anyone.  This is mainly because your packet has to be received, sorted, and input before anyone with authority even looks at the information with an analytical eye.  If you call too early, you are only going to be frustrated by talking to the poor person who sits in front of a computer all day, trying to calm down panicked homeowners by means of a badly-written script.

If you are lucky, you will have a company that employs someone to confirm that all your materials have arrived.  Companies that ask you to fax your documents are often the ones with this service.  (And thank heaven for that; faxing is not my favorite way of sending anything important.  Too often not all the pages go through or you can’t read half of them, or someone forgets and chucks them in the garbage.  I’ll fax then snail-mail the documents just to be sure.)  Wait about a week and a half before calling to check up on your documents.  Then, if anything is missing, you can get those things in as quickly as possible.

Your realtor will have taken point on negotiations with the lender, so let her/him do it, don’t muddle things by calling constantly without them knowing.  Be sure to keep them in the loop.  If you have questions, ask your realtor first, then go to the mortgage company if you need more information or you’re advised to do so.  Whatever you do, try not to let this part of the process weigh on you.  At this point there is nothing you can do, so you should try to relax.

The takeaway advice:

  •  Sellers,  If you’ve put together your packet properly, you should have no reason to panic.  I can’t say you’ll be able to kick back and enjoy the wait period, but it isn’t a time for excessive worry.  You’ve done your best and now it’s up to others. 
  • Realtors, be patient with edgy clients.  You’ve guided them this far, but they still have an unresolved problem on their minds.  Please be sure to check the lender’s rules on communications, but don’t let too much time pass before you check in.  Be sure that you keep your client in the loop, too.  Establish a communications pattern with your client.  Let them know you will call once a week on a certain day, and they won’t be as inclined to hound you for information you don’t have.

With any luck, the end of your wait period will come with a confirmed contract for sale.  Good luck!

Next week: What to do when the sale fails.

The Waiting – Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers

How to survive a short sale: Part 3

Part 3: The hardship letter

In certain respects writing your hardship letter is even more difficult than putting together your financial information.  Mortgage companies and banks not only want the proof that you are in bad straits, but a narrative that lets them know how you got there.  This is where you link together the series of events that led you to being unable to pay for your home as originally intended.  You need to be forthright with your reasons, and keep it to about a page’s worth of text.  This can be hard for some.  Reliving the cause of your downfall, be it medical bills, divorce, or loss of a business can be tough, but it has to be done.  Your job is to inspire some sympathy in the reader, not just say, “I had money, now I don’t.” 

There are differing opinions on whether or not to hand write and carefully edit the letter.  As many of the mortgage companies provide a printed sheet, you may not be able to neatly type your form, so your choice may be made for you.  When I was doing short sales, I was encouraged to not correct any spelling or grammatical errors made by my clients so they looked more genuine and, quite frankly, more ignorant of how mortgages work.  These days, so many people are in arrears I see more of a shift to well written letters that can be easily read. 

For the realtors out there, I suggest you find out in advance which companies prefer tidy over “home grown.”  Though I have never heard of anyone being rejected because of a bad hardship letter, it never hurts to be sure.

This is another area where honesty is key.  If you underestimated the permanency of your job, go ahead and say it.  If you made bad investments and it caught up with you, put it out there.  Be succinct and honest; for pity’s sake, don’t lie.  It may look awful on paper to say you just didn’t figure your spending ability correctly, but that is what happened and there’s no way to make an inability to pay look good.

My piece of advice: Tell your story like a story.  It has a beginning, middle, and an end.  This is your opportunity to tell your side of things from your viewpoint and show that you aren’t trying to get out of your commitment because you don’t care.  You’re just trying to do the best you can.

How to survive a short sale: Part 2

Part 2: Collect all your financial stuff

After you have decided to try and sell your home with a short sale, you’re going to need to gather a lot of information for the mortgage company.  Most have a specific short sale packet that you must fill out, but they all have similar requirements.  If you tried to get a work-out plan from your mortgage company you’re going to see a lot of the same information is needed.  Don’t assume that they have all your info on file, they don’t.  At least, they don’t have it in the short sale department.  That department could be miles away in a different city from the forbearance department.  Even if they’re in the same building, they never talk.  In fact – especially if you’re dealing with one of the larger mortgage companies – you should proceed with the understanding that no department has any idea what the others are doing/have done.  You will have to repeat yourself whenever you speak with someone new.

One of the main – and most dreaded – parts of the short sale packet is your financial situation.  You will be asked to provide your last two paystubs (I thought that one was pretty funny when I didn’t have a job), record all your income and where it comes from, tally up all your debt, give them your last two years’ tax forms, the last two months’ bank statements and provide a detailed list of your monthly expenses.  So, go ahead and start getting all that together.  Don’t wait until you have a contract.  Even if it takes some time to find a buyer, you can always update your information if there are changes.  I found it was much easier to put my paystubs and bank statements in a basket so I could send new ones as needed.  Even when you get a contract and submit your packet, keep putting those paystubs – and anything else that changes monthly – in the basket (or shoebox or nicely labeled file folder, whatever gets you there.)  The mortgage companies and banks can’t and won’t use information that is over six weeks old, and it may take longer than that to negotiate.

When it comes to writing out your income and expenses; don’t lie, and don’t leave anything out.  Be as detailed as possible.  Most of us don’t have diverse sources of income, but we do have diverse expenses.  Include everything; pet care, hair appointments, your cable bill, entertainment.  I mean everything.  If you have something you spend on monthly, write it down.  You are not going to get points for looking thrifty.  Now, I wouldn’t include something like a bad gambling habit, but I think you know what I mean (by the way, if that’s why you’re losing your home, please get some help.)  The mortgage company just wants to see why you have no money to pay them, and make sure there are good reasons.

You might be stunned to see how much you spend each month.   Alex and I took the opportunity to budget tighter after we saw our expenses and were able to cut a few more things out (like the TV cable bill.)  It wasn’t much of a silver lining, but at least we found something.

For those of you who are the realtor handling the short sale, don’t get too short annoyed with your clients if they don’t have it done in two days.  Encourage them to start early so they have time to both gather their paperwork and their emotions.  Writing down all the things that you are still responsible for even after your house sells can be pretty daunting.  For many, that house is just one piece of the overwhelming debt that is owed.  It might be a big chunk of it, but there will still be problems left after it sells.  However, I’m not saying just leave them to it.  You might need to push a little if it turns out your client is a head-in-the-sand type who hasn’t yet come to terms with their situation.  You may need to offer to sit down with them and help them go through everything.  Remember, I said this process is not for those who have little patience.

Here’s my next bit of advice:  Get your ducks in a row.   Find those W-2 tax forms (and make copies!  For heaven’s sake, don’t send your original) keep your paystubs and bank statements in a handy spot, start writing down everything you spend money on.  You’re going to need all this information, and it’s a royal pain to do it last minute.  If you need help, ask your realtor.  If you’re the realtor, be ready to help.

Kindness from a stranger

Sometimes, it takes hardship to remember that there are people out there, even strangers, who are kind.  I spend a lot of time grousing at bad drivers, frowning at rude people in stores, and shaking my head at the terrible things you hear people do to each other on the news.  It’s nice to find out that there are folks out there who care what happens to you, even if you don’t know them.

If you read my last post, you’ll know that the short-sale for my house in Memphis finally went through.  It was a painful time that is finally over and I was glad to close the door on that chapter.  But something nice came of it. 

The new owners of the home found a box of photos and other memories in the attic that I did not mean to leave behind.  They contacted me through my blog and will be mailing the box to me.  You can see Roy’s comment after the post.

I have to admit, the note made me a little verklempt.  We had left some junk behind.  By the time moving day came around, we were tired, unhappy, and frightened for our future.  Some of the stuff was actually there when we moved in and we hadn’t gotten rid of it ourselves.  We should have cleared out everything, but it was enough to warrant getting a dumpster, and we didn’t have the money for one.  We could have left it all on the curb, but I’m sure the neighbors wouldn’t have liked that either; and as I said, we were tired.  It’s not an excuse, just a reason.  If I had discovered my box of memories lost, I would have said to myself, “Well, that’s what you get for leaving a mess in the attic.  You should have been more careful.”

Roy found the box in the middle of the pile of junk and is going out of his way to be nice by sending the box.  There is no reason he should have bothered to contact me, but he did.  He tells me that he and his family are planning on staying in the house a long time, and I’m very glad of it.  I fully expected that an investor would buy it and fix it up to sell, which would have been ok.  That could have been Alex and me a couple of years ago, and it would be a good investment.  But it’s more satisfying to know that someone will be living there from the beginning, and hopefully enjoying the place as much as I did.

There are good, kind people out there that you have never met before.  Give them a chance to show you.